Breath Awakening: Transforming Your Relationships
Each Breath Awakening journey is carefully crafted - not just with breathwork, but with music, movement, and intention. The theme guides the experience, creating a space for deep reflection and transformation. This session, we explored relationships - not just with others, but with ourselves.
Your relationships mirror your inner world. They don’t break you - your patterns do. The way we connect with others is shaped by our upbringing, past wounds, and subconscious conditioning. True transformation in relationships doesn’t come from fixing the other person but from understanding ourselves more deeply.
During the Breath Awakening session, we explored the idea that relationships are a mirror - reflecting our self-awareness, wounds, and capacity for love. We repeat what we don’t repair, often choosing familiar pain over unfamiliar healing. Until we consciously choose a different path, our nervous system clings to old patterns, even if they hurt us.
The Two Paths in Relationships
We often unconsciously fall into one of two categories:
🚫 Fear-Based Patterns
Seeking validation or overgiving to feel worthy.
Confusing control with safety or intensity with love.
Abandoning oneself to keep the peace.
✅ Conscious Love
Expressing needs without guilt or fear.
Holding space for both closeness and autonomy.
Choosing love from security, not survival.
Transformation begins with shifting the question from “How do I fix this relationship?” to “What is this teaching me about myself?”
Personal Journeys of Transformation
For many of us, our past relationships were shaped by unconscious patterns.
Luke’s Story: From Defensiveness to Presence
For years, I tied my worth to achievement. I sought control in my external environment, the desire for financial security feel ‘safe’, but love doesn’t thrive in control - it thrives in trust, surrender. The shift happened when I stopped proving my worth and started being present. I learned to listen without fixing, love without fear of loss, and create the safety I once sought externally within myself.
Candice’s Story: From People-Pleasing to Truth
I spent years shaping myself to be the ‘right’ person, believing love had to be earned through effort. But love that demands self-abandonment isn’t love - it’s survival. My shift happened when I stopped seeking love that made me feel ‘enough’ and started being the love I needed. I chose relationships where my wholeness was not a threat.
Breaking Old Patterns:
Ask yourself:
If you lean anxious:
Do I believe I must earn love?
Am I overgiving to feel worthy?
Do I confuse intensity with connection?
If you lean avoidant:
Do I equate needing others with weakness?
Where do I shut down instead of speaking up?
Do I create distance to feel in control?
If you feel secure:
Do I trust I’m lovable even in disconnection?
Where do I still hold back my truth?
How can I love without fear?
Moving Forward: Actions for Integration
1. Track Your Emotional Triggers
Keep a journal for two weeks. Each time you feel triggered in a relationship, write down:
The situation
Your emotional reaction
The underlying belief (e.g., “I’m not enough,” “They’ll leave me”)
How you responded and how you could respond differently next time.
2. Practice ‘Pause & Breathe’ Before Reacting
When you feel triggered, take three deep breaths through your nose before responding.
Ask yourself: “Am I reacting from a wound or responding from awareness?”
3. Daily Self-Connection Ritual
Spend 5-10 minutes daily doing:
Restorative breathing to calm your nervous system.
Body scanning to notice where tension sits.
Writing one thing you appreciate about yourself in a journal.
4. Communicate Your Needs with Clarity
Instead of assuming people should ‘just know,’ practice saying:
“I feel [emotion] when [situation]. What I need is [specific request].”
Example: “I feel overwhelmed when I do all the planning. What I need is for us to share the responsibility.”
5. Set One Boundary This Week
Identify where you’ve been overgiving, avoiding conflict, or neglecting your needs.
Set one small boundary and communicate it with kindness and firmness.
Example: If someone consistently interrupts you, say: “I value our conversation, but I’d love to finish my thought before you jump in.”
Your relationships are not a reflection of your worth but of your self-awareness. Choose love from security, not survival. Choose growth over comfort. And most importantly, choose yourself.
March 20th and 22nd: Reconnecting with Your Inner Child
Next month, our journey shifts inward - toward the part of you that existed before the world told you who you should be. March is all about reconnecting with your inner child - the part of you that still holds your deepest joys, fears, and unmet needs.
How does this apply to you? Every pattern you carry in relationships today was shaped by the experiences of your younger self. Whether you were taught to suppress emotions, overperform for love, or fear abandonment, your inner child still influences how you show up in love, connection, and self-worth.
This is your invitation to meet that younger version of yourself with compassion, to listen to what they need, and to begin rewriting the story of how you relate to yourself and others.
We deeply appreciate you for showing up, for breathing through this journey, and for being open to self-exploration. Transformation begins with awareness, and by taking this time for yourself, you’ve already taken a powerful step toward deeper, more conscious connections in your life.
We are Luke and Candice, and we help individuals and parents transform their relationships with themselves, their partners, and their families through breathwork, mind training, and conscious relationship coaching. Our work focuses on breaking generational cycles, fostering deep emotional connections, and optimizing lifestyle and relationships for greater fulfillment and balance.